Connecting with your kids, can be a very difficult thing to do sometimes. When they’re little a lot of times we don’t have a problem snuggling and eating them up. As they grow and enter into different ages and stages it becomes more challenging. I should know I have a teenager, a elementary school, and the preschool aged child under one roof. So challenging isn’t really the word I was looking for. But I know that I have been given these children for a reason. So I plan on being intentional with their childhood. Given that they have only around 935 Saturdays from the time of their born until that time they go off to college, it seems like time really does move at lightening fast speed. So here are some of the top tips that I am implementing in our house. The point is not to do them perfectly but rather to pick and choose and just do them. My children know when I am trying and when I’m not and I definitely see a response.
The 5 T’s to Connecting with your Kids
1. TEMPERAMENT.
Each child is born with a different one. Learn to speak their own personal love language. Find out by asking a lot of questions. Ask them simply, “how do you know I love you?” If the answer is something along the lines of, “when you spend time with me I know you love me,” then you know you have a child whose primary love language maybe quality time. Invest the time to find out there love language and you will better learn how to love them.
2. TEACH
Teach your children something. Cooking with them seems to be something that I enjoy and love to pass on to my kids. But the point really is to take the time to teach them a skill and let them see you in action. The best way to teach our children is by having them see us live out the principles and guidelines that we are sharing with them. Remember they are constantly watching and learning.
3. TOUCH
deliberately touch your children every day. It is said that the human needs a minimum of five touches of love a day in order to have their love tank filled. Holding their hand, a pat on the back, a simple high-five, all add up and to make a world of difference to them.
4. TIME
Investing time with your children is just that an investment. They may not remember the details but they will remember that you took the time to make them feel like they were important. This gets so buried in our hurried life that we sometimes don’t make the time that they need. Remember in parenting the days are long but the years are short.
5. TENACITY
Demonstrate tenacity. Showing them a never give up spirit shows them that they can do it too. Commit as a family and really do it. It will teach them a quality that is invaluable to them as an adult.
And finally as a bonus tip pray for them daily. What we cannot control God can. When we pray for them we are putting them into his hands every day and asking God to fill in our own shortcomings and gaps.
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